As we are bidding 2019 farewell, it is time to ✨welcome 2020 ✨and start on a loving note! ❤️
The year is ending and you find yourself feeling tired, depleted, burnt out, lost your passion for life and you’re just going through the motions.
You tell yourself that there has got to be more to life than this!
Let me tell you this. Every single choice you make matters!
Are you spending more time taking care of other people than of yourself?
As a result of being such an independent, fierce, productive woman, who can do it all, does it seems like you are not getting the support that you need?
Self-love is at the core of all the choices we make. And boundaries are the foundation for proper self-care.
What are you willing to accept from others and where do you draw the line?
We teach people how to treat us. And if we don’t value ourselves, our time, or our health, why would others?
Your actions speak louder than your words. Your boundaries are a reflection of your level of self-love and self-esteem.
If your boundaries are loose, you are signalling that you value others more than you do yourself.
Having healthy boundaries means asking for what we want in all spheres of our lives: work, family, kids, partners, friends.
To be happy and successful at anything in your life you need to put yourself first and then you can take care of everyone else.
If you don’t love yourself, you will betray yourself over and over again. With time it will wear at your mind, body and soul…
This is why, as Caroline Myss says, people don’t heal. Because they are not willing to face the truth.
Did you know that self-esteem, boundaries and choices are all inter-connected?
If you’re not sure and want to experience it first hand, try this out for a week or two and notice if there has been a shift:
- First step: Awareness. 🍃Start paying attention to ALL the choices you make throughout the day, big AND small. And notice the consequence of the choices you have just made. If you can journal about it to keep track. We easily forget!
Every single choice we make has an impact. Trust me!
- Second step: Stop and think. 🍃Now that you realize how many choices we make in a single day. Take a second or two and notice the choice you are about to make and ask yourself this question:
Is what I’m about to do reflective of self-love or love of the other, or is it a choice based on fear or guilt or a sense of obligation?
- Third step: Action. 🍃Now it is time to actually go into action. You’ve determined if this choice was out of love or not. If it is not, are you willing to pass, say no, set a boundary to honour yourself?
Still hesitating, then ask yourself “If I wasn’t scared or did not feel guilty or obligated, what would I do?” And do it!
- Fourth step: Taking responsibility. 🍃 If you were able to make a choice based on self-love. That’s awesome. Keep it up. You will reap the benefits, no doubt about it.
If you still struggle with fear, guilt or sense of obligation, and let these emotions make the choices for you. That’s awesome too!
Huh? You wonder. Well yes. Now you know the source of your stress, overwhelm, burnt out, depression, anxiety… you name it.
You get to turn your life around NOW!
Before I let you go, keep this quote in mind:
“The life you have today is based on the choices you made yesterday and the life you will have tomorrow is based on the choices you make today.”
If you want to find happiness, be mindful of the choices you make. They matter more than you think!
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Wishing you all a ✨Happy New Year ✨and Health ❤️above all else. The rest will naturally follow!
With gratitude, 🌿